Bondage For Beginners: Pleasure Principle

16 May 2013 12 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Bondage For Beginners Tags: , , , ,

Pleasure Principle 2So you have a person tied down, you realize that you have a lot more time available than normal, and you don’t know what to do.  Let me ask you this question, how well do you know the body of the person you have tied up?  Probably not as well as you think or as you could.  One of the things that most people are not taught is to get to know the body of the person you are with.  How do they react to certain touches.  Where to touch them other than the obvious spots.  How to give pleasure without going straight for the obvious spots.  In other words, to learn how your partner’s body reacts.

Let’s start with some pretty easy things to do that are not obviously sexual in nature, but trust me once you learn how your partner’s body reacts to a variety of stimulations sex will become a lot more fulfilling.

Light Touch

A light touch of fingers sliding across bare skin is one of my favorite sensations to do to a bound person.  Just use the very tips of your fingers one, two, three, or more fingers barely touching the skin.  Don’t move your hands in fingers in predictable directions either, move them around from place to place in a natural, but unpredictable fashion.  Try not to linger in one place either move from back of thigh up to butt up the person’s back and down their sides.  Be careful there is a difference between light touch and tickling (see below).

Do you have long hair?  Drag that long hair over the person’s body.  Whip them lightly with your hair-careful of neck strain and getting hair in the bound person’s mouth or eyes.  Don’t have long hair no worries.  Take a light cloth like a bandana or scarf and lightly drag that over the person’s body.  While you are doing this you should be paying attention to how they react and where they react the most or the least.

Rough (Firm thank you Mrs. Fever) Touch

Use more of the fingers, finger tips or palms when moving your hands across their body.  Apply more pressure. You are not giving a massage, but giving more tactile sensation-more skin contact.  Again pay attention to how the person reacts.  To provide some variety use your finger nails for light scratching.  Mixing the light and rough touches together provides the most sensation, variety, and tends to get the best reactions out of a person.

Pleasure Principle 5Important, do not just focus on the genitals.  The goal is to get to know your partner’s body and the only way to do that is to explore all parts of their body using your hands and senses.  Feet, hands, ears, scalp, stomach, back, and every other part in between.  When they inhale slightly or tense up, remember what you were doing.  You can use that later when you want to get or keep their attention while they are bound.

Massage

Everyone loves a good massage.  Everyone despises a bad massage.  Most people think that they give good massages.  THEY DON’T.  Becoming good at massage is a combination of understanding human anatomy, knowing a combination of light and rough touch, and most of all understanding what the person getting the massage wants and needs.  The best massages, like bondage, take time.  Not five minutes, but half-hour to an hour of time spent working on the person’s entire body.  A goal of a massage, especially with someone who is bound, is to get them relaxed, to get them in a good mental space, to relive or prevent any aches from being bound.  This is not achieved by roughly crushing, pinching, or whatever most people call a massage to the neck or shoulders for three to five minutes.  This is achieved through time, the application of a variety of techniques, none of which I am qualified to write about.  Thankfully there are many good books on massage.  When you can give a good massage you will get great sex in return or a good massage in return.

Tickling

Personally I am not a fan of tickling during bondage, but tickling happens. More than tickling happens is that you know whether the person likes to be tickled and where they are ticklish and what tickles them.  Thus I suggest that you ask first, before any bondage and then while you are learning your partner’s body using any of the above you pay attention to any new or unknown tickle spots.  How you use them is up to you.

Pleasure Principle 3Ice

Finally some fun.  Ice cubes are a fun way to explore a person’s body.  Watching their skin react, watching how their body reacts to both the ice and the cold water that comes off the melting cube is always interesting.

In conclusion, remember a goal of everyone should be to learn how their partner’s body reacts to a variety of stimulation.  During bondage when a person has nothing to do but stay in one place being able to provide a variety of stimulation to a variety of locations on their body is the best way to keep their attention where you want it to be.

For further reading see:

Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners II

Bondage for Beginners Cuff Special

Bondage for Beginners: Cuff Special Now with Photos

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 1)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 2)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 3)

Bondage for…Well I’m Not Sure Yet

Bondage for Beginners, What To Do Overview

Bondage For Beginners, What To Do Overview

11 May 2013 12 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Bondage For Beginners, Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , ,

BFB 1Something that shows up a lot, and by a lot I mean well over a 100 times a month in my search terms are a lot of “what to do,” “ideas for,” and so on terms all revolving around bondage.  For whatever reason I have not really addressed them until today.  Okay, if I am being honest, I thought I had with previous Bondage For Beginners posts, but upon a good re-reading I have not given any suggestions to do with a bound person, but how to tie up people and some basic positions to tie people up.  I should have thought about that before, given that one of Barb’s biggest issues with tying me up is, “I don’t know what to do.”

I aim to rectify these things over a few posts.  This first post will be a general overview.

An Assumption

The What To Do posts will make the following assumption, that someone is bound somewhere. If nobody is bound then you need to start there.  If you do not know how to do that then you should consult any of the Bondage For Beginners posts.

What To Do an Overview

Hey that rhymed. :)   Personally I don’t understand why people don’t know what to do with a bound person.  For me the thoughts, plans, and ideas just come naturally.  That being said, I am aware that there are people who would like some ideas, plans, suggestions, or even directions.  Hopefully, this will be a good start.

Why do I like bondage?  I get to take my time.  That is a top ten reason.  With someone bound you have all the time in the world to do whatever you have in mind or have discussed with the person beforehand.  Keep that in mind, time.  No need to rush.  No need to be quick.  Time to savor.  Time to enjoy.  Time to give pleasure.  Most people are so used to rushing around, that they rush or try to rush sex.  Bondage gives you that time.  So one of my first suggestions is to think before you break out the ties, scarves, or cuffs.

Think about what you want to do.  Do you want to try something new?  Do you want to try a position or even a couple of positions?  Do you want to play with a new toy?  Do you want to make them beg?  In other words come up with at least a rough idea of what you will be doing and what you want them to do or experience.

Example: Here is a rough plan of mine.  I want Barb on her back.  I don’t care where her arms are, other than not in my way.  Her arms could go above her head, to the sides of the bed or cuffed under her neck.  I do want her legs out of the way.  Given that I know she can be squirmy I want her legs to have a minimal amount of movement.  No closing or wiggling about. Why do I want these things?  My goal is to spend as much time as necessary going down on her.  Not to get her to an immediate orgasm, but to get her close, then stop, then close again, stop, and close again…you get the idea.  I want her to have a big orgasm, not just a quick orgasm.

BFB 2To break that down into a simple list:

Goal: Big Orgasm via “teasing”

Position (s): Legs out of the way

Tools: Cuffs and some straps

See simple enough that anyone can make a basic plan using just those three categories.

What if you aren’t a planner?  I still suggest that you have a rough dea of what you would like to do.  You can go with the flow from that point on, but one of the worse mood-killers for any bondage session is no action.  The bound person has nothing to do other than experience what you are doing.  If you are not doing anything or not doing enough, the bound person will get bored and possibly out of the mood.  This is why you should have at least a rough idea.

Do not give the bound person time to think about anything other than anticipation of what is going to happen.  Not the temperature of the room.  Not what they might look like.  Not the grocery list.  Not what is on television later.  Keep them occupied.  Keeping them occupied requires experience, or a plan if you don’t have a lot of experience.

Next post some suggestions based on experience.  Until then, spend some time thinking about what you want to do and what you want them to experience.  Just those two things will go a long way towards a fun time.

For further reading see:

Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners II

Bondage for Beginners Cuff Special

Bondage for Beginners: Cuff Special Now with Photos

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 1)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 2)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 3)

Bondage for…Well I’m Not Sure Yet

Bondage for Beginners: Pleasure Principle

 

Bondage For…Well I’m Not Sure Yet

07 May 2013 16 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Bondage For Beginners, Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , , ,

HandsI have always wanted a spreader bar or two.  Always have.  Just like I want to finally get settled down in one place and rebuild my bondage closet.  “So, go out and get a spreader bar or two,” you are saying and you would be right, and you will also be interested to know that before the one I just bought arrived (see what I did there) I had built one.  Something I should investigate is why my “manly” building urges and talent only revolve around bondage….well at least the tools are getting used for something. Not that my grandfather would understand or be proud-he got me the tool set I think as a gag gift and statement.  Again another story.

My homemade spreader bar was nothing more than a wooden rod (ha) with eye bolts at either end for attaching cuff to.  Not very pretty, but functional, up to a point.  There was no dedicated way to attach both arms and legs, one or the other, and the eyebolts allowed for movement than I felt was good for what I usually have in mind and in some instances safe.  Still functional, whatever was put in cuffs stayed apart, but for whatever reason I never got around to truly incorporating the spreader bar into my bondage thoughts, routines, and most importantly activities.  Now that I am thinking about the matter I think I have used that spreader bar less than twenty-times.

I love the control and restraint aspect of bondage.  Which is why my homemade spreader bar probably did not get used as much as I would like.  The range of movement that could be achieved, while small, was still enough to bother me.  That the bar did not have the capability to hold more than two limbs or be connected, easily to anything else, definitely bothered me.

Now all of that is in the past.  My homemade spreader bar is displayed like some sort of artifact from another age, which it is.  The new spreader bar, not made by me, has spots for four limbs and can easily be attached to other gear that I have.  I love that!  The bar has some flex which is good, but movement is seriously restricted, once in you are not going anywhere at all.  The first position I used was right off the picture on the box…I know where is my creativity…well I like to read instructions too…creativity will come soon enough (post finals :) ).  No movement arms stayed where they were, legs stayed where they were, and struggling was fun to watch.

ChainsWhich brings me to my minor mental confuddle….how best to incorporate this very fun and useful toy into everything I do and when I finally get around to explaining to others where does a spreader bar fall into the wonderful range of Bondage for series?  I don’t think beginner, although I think beginners would get a kick out of it or have a grand-mal freak out.  Intermediate, Ranked Amateur, or Advanced seem about right?  Like I said a minor mental conduddle.  More interesting to me is all of the WONDERFUL thoughts racing around my head about positions, toys to use with, and activities to try and try again. :)

And IF I can get someone to use the spreader bar for Naked in Life or Naked in Bondage (ugh lame name…damn it)…FUN to be had and stuff to write about.

For further reading see:

Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners

Bondage for Beginning Beginners II

Bondage for Beginners Cuff Special

Bondage for Beginners: Cuff Special Now with Photos

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 1)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 2)

Bondage for Amateur Novices (Part 3)

Bondage for Beginners, What To Do Overview

Bondage for Beginners: Pleasure Principle

 

Kinky Fuckery: Eyes Up Here Buddy

28 Apr 2013 11 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , , ,

I was standing in the bosses office, supposedly in “trouble” again.  Trouble, for me, was speaking my mind about the lack-luster leadership, shoddy conditions, and that I was taking a week off for vacation.  The boss was a short man who let his assistant do all of the dirty work. Given that she enjoyed the power, she liked to tell people that she really was the boss when the boss was around and I was telling him that.  Suffice to say two half-ass bosses was not creating a harmonious work environment, however what struck me most about the whole meeting was when I noticed my boss staring at my crotch.

Up to that moment I had never paid any attention to not wearing underware or in the vernacular going commando.  I cleared my throat which drew his attention from my cock in hiding to my face.

“I’m up here.  Since you haven’t heard a word I said I’m leaving. She,” pointing at the assistant, “can tell you what I said.”

That was my last day working there, I did get my week’s paid vacation first, and the first day I noticed that I wasn’t wearing drawers.

I don’t remember when I stopped wearing underware. One day I just stopped and have not looked back…down on occasion, but never back.  I can tell you that I didn’t stop with an eye towards being cool, sexy, or anything else.  I don’t like underware, especially male underware.  Take into account that I am old enough that I can remember when tighty-whities, colored tighty-whities (black, blue, and grey), along with Underoos were the primary choices and Underoos were made with kids in mind.  Boxers existed of course but were no more stylish than the standard tighty-whities.

So what can I tell you about going commando that you may not know, need to know, or want to know?

  • You will save money on not having to buy underware.
  • You will save time on laundry.
  • You will save time on getting dressed.
  • You will not be fashion forward as underware goes, but at the same time you don’t have to worry about the condition of your underware during a date.
  • Scratching is easier.
  • Breezes feel good…no great.
  • Cold gets to you sooner.
  • Hot weather or temperatures are not a problem as their is plenty of room for circulation.
  • Jeans are rough on the twig and berries.
  • Khakis in particular feel good.
  • Fatigues, like I wear, are great with enough space for swingage, yet tight enough that people looking will notice.
  • Wedgies are a thing of the past.
  • Zippers are to be feared.
  • Buttons are awesome unless your penis learns how to undo them.
  • “Short” hairs can get caught in zips…ouch!
  • Shaved balls feel extra nice especially against a good cloth.
  • Errections stand out more.
  • For those in a hurry time saved going to the bathroom is nice.
  • For those in a rush not having underware does allow quicker exposure of junk to partners.
  • You don’t have to look for your underware post coitus.
  • Some people, unobservant people I have notice, enjoy the surprise of finding skin instead of cloth when reaching into your pants.
  • The extra attention is nice.

Finally, I offer this up for people who have to stand up in front of people and speak (read college communication classes), going commando has another benefit, at least for a little while they are not looking you in the face which takes the pressure off. :D

Kinky Fuckery: A Special Request

25 Apr 2013 21 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , ,

Last night and hopefully today you were looking at the first of several plans for the BEST SEX CLOSET ever.  I had asked a friend of mine to create the plans for me and he has gone leaps and bounds beyond what I had originally asked.  Because of the feedback he saw on the blog, he came to me with an idea and a request.  See leaving comments can lead to dreams being fulfilled.

He enjoyed trying to fit some last minute requests into the plan, but because of timing was not able to accommodate all of the request.  See where this is going?

My Man From Calcutta asked me last night if I would like him to design an ENTIRE house in the same vein as the closet.  “HELL YEAH!” I replied.  THE BEST SEX HOUSE ever…wait that sounds like a musical about a bordello…damnit!  Well we will work on a better name later.  Right now while he is in the beginning phase he would like to hear any and all requests for the plans.

That’s right folks if you have any request, desire, dream, delusion, or fantasy that you would like to see in a house-your house speak up in the comments and I will make sure he sees them.  Don’t worry if you don’t get your request in today, tomorrow, or even next week he says this will take some time to accomplish.  He will be accepting requests for a while.  I of course will post updates and reminders to get your requests in.

Have fun.

Addendum: I just received an IM from My Woman From Calcutta, she would like me to let you know that she had a hand in the design process as well.  I believe in giving credit where credit is due.

Kinky Fuckery: A Special Preview

24 Apr 2013 20 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , , ,

Some of you have been waiting patiently for this.  Others will have no clue.

My Man from Calcutta informs me that there is an electrical and plumbing diagram along with some explanations to follow.

For now look upon the FUTURE OF SEX CLOSETS with awe.

closet

Kinky Fuckery: Mind Set

22 Apr 2013 9 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery Tags: , , , , , , ,

Research MonkeyHello, I am your Research Monkey, PHD. Welcome to the first of inside Nate’s mind, thoughts, or thinking process or well whatever in the hell you want to call the week long mess you are about to read.  Normally questions and the inner workings of my boss are my prevue to write and notify you about, however, this week he has decided to take the responsibility himself.  I apologize now for the language and what I will assume are many typos to be.

-R. Monkey, PHD

I enjoy examining how I think about…well everything.  Recently I wrote a post where I was talking or trying to talk about the mental leap, okay less of a leap and more of a step, that I have been going through in the sexual area.   After answering some questions I got to thinking about what I was trying to say, what I said, and how to say what I was trying to say better or clearer.  Follow that?  Sure you did.

I have two very broad ways that I think about sex that I am going to have.  There is the way I was raised to treat women, which is respectful of their wants and needs.  Making sure that their sexual needs and wants are understood and realized, before mine are (yes, Barb gets hers first, most of the time, and definitely all of the time).  I have spent most of my sexual life learning about women from women and any other source that I can.  I use what I know ,in general, combined with what I learn from the woman I am with, in this case Barb to make sure that she…well she is pleased in the bedroom.

Then there is the way I approach bondage.  Bondage is a plan.  I come up with something (s) that I want to do, or to accomplish: such as a position, long foreplay, photowork, wax play, or just about anything else.  Then I plan the whole thing out.  Well the whole thing out as far as equipment needed, positions, and transitions to new positions (I like to make one bondage position to the other as smooth as possible).  Bondage does have an organic component to me, usually during, on occasion spur of the moment, but in general I have given the matter some thought before hand.  Often well before hand.  Usually I have three or four bondage plans roaming around my head.

Together the two ways of thinking combine into a successful method of sex: bondage or no bondage.

Now I am trying to incorporate another way of thinking.  One that has been there in the back of my head forever, but not in a sexual sense or at least not recognized in a sexual sense.  Being in charge is not something that I have thought about from a sexual sense other than when the topic of male-male-female threesomes is brought up by someone other than us.  I have never felt the need to “take charge” or “be dominant” with a woman in the bedroom.  Lead in new activities sure, but the traditional role of a Dom is not something I have any thought to and in a way, to me, is counter to my first way of thinking about sex.  I give pleasure by doing not by ordering, commanding, leading, or any other word.  At least I had not thought about it from that angle.  Now I am.

Which leads to the mental step that I am working through.  As you can probably tell I am used to either going with the flow or making plans, generally speaking, in neither case do I need to maintain a façade, a persona, or think about what should/could happen.  To lead is to have an idea of a direction and to be able to react to changes that occur.  I am not sure of the direction I can go, let alone want to go.  Every time something new is added to the mix which means something new to learn to incorporate.

A good example one that may be relatable:  Bondage is like Chinese cooking-you can give me just about any number of Chinese ingredients and I can make up many dishes.  D/s is like Indian cooking which I am just now learning-many of the ingredients are familiar, but I have yet to make my own recipes.

I think that example sums up my mental leap best.  I am learning how to cook something new and how to merge the new flavors with the old to make even better food.

Kinky Fuckery: The Accidental Dom?

19 Apr 2013 14 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery, Sex Thought Tags: , , , ,

I am in control of most aspects of my life.  I lead.  I take charge.  I express my pleasure and displeasure equally, loud and clear.  I do not suffer fools lightly.  Yet, in the bedroom or in sexual situations I am happy to let the situation unfold naturally, more give and take than life outside of the bedroom.  Sure I plan out nights with bondage, occasional spanking or flogging, but I do not make these plans everyday and when we are having fun my primary mode is her pleasure first.  I learned a long time ago, and I am not sure from where, that being assertive in the bedroom is not good.

100_5269I know better.  But old habits die hard even when someone else wants or would like those habits to die off.  My biggest issues with being dominant or Dominant in the bedroom is fighting against decades of previous experience.  When I think about the women before Barb I cannot imagine or picture any of them wanting to be told what to do.  Maybe they did, but did not know how to express it.  Maybe I did, but did not realize it.  Leading in the bedroom is one thing, but commanding is a mental step that I am struggling with.

Odd to me that it would be because outside of the bedroom that is not a problem for me.  In the bedroom my focus has always been her from a her comfort, her needs, her wants angle.  Not that being dominant or Dominant (I should pick one or make my own) does not take those aspects into account, but the mindset is different.  Good example: Instead of asking what she would like, just giving her what she would like or will like.  I know her well enough to know not only what she likes, but when she likes, and if I am on my game how long what she likes should take.

Yet doubt creeps in.  Even in the middle of doing doubt “does she REALLY like this?” or “does she REALLY want to do this?” creep into my brain.  I am a thinker at all times.  There is no time when I am not thinking.  So even in the middle of sex when she is moaning with pleasure and in the moment my brain stops paying attention to what is in front of me and wonders what is behind the scene.  What I cannot see.

A form of performance anxiety is what I think of it as.  As to me being Dom (don’t like that spelling for me) is not natural yet in the bedroom, at this stage it is more of a performance.  Perhaps that is why I am still question because in my head or heart or whatever is the center of me (leaning towards stomach or genitals) I do not believe that I am dominant in the bedroom in the way that I would like and they way she wants.  Thankfully I have not broken character yet, and each time I feel more confident.  Still the questions creep in and I wonder.

Kinky Fuckery: Saucey Sex

18 Apr 2013 6 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Food Thought, Kinky Fuckery, Sex Thought Tags: , ,

Perhaps I am in the minority as I have not publically met anyone who admits to liking adding food and sex together.  Nothing overly complicated such as trying to figure out how to hump over the steak and shrimp dinner.

“How are you liking the shrimp? Harder you say.  I may have overcooked the shrimp…OH you mean harder.”

100_5259Nothing overly messy either such as a cake or a pie.  I mean there are enough good eats at the party as there is, but every so often I like to add or maybe I crave a flavor with my sex.  No, nothing is wrong with how Barb tastes.  She tastes great and I am sure that if I had to cook or fry her she would taste great dipped in garlic flavored butter.  However, every once in a while chocolate, caramel, or some other sweet flavor on a boob.  Don’t you?  Fine maybe not a boob, some other body part.

I like food that can be deployed easily and cleaned up during the process of foreplay or sex. I don’t care about mess.  In fact to me messy sex, food or not, is a sign of successful sex.  Big ole wet spot, success.  Blankets on the floor around the bed, success.  The bedside lamp in three pieces and one post of the bed bent at an odd angle, success.  So tossing in some sticky, sweet, tasty mess not-a-problem.

Now I do not like to use food around the pussy.  For one the taste of pussy is great as is.  For another pussies and sugar…well just about anything found in a food do not go well together.  I am not say bad results all of the time, but one yeast infection due to an overload sugar, is one to many. Finally, I don’t know why but food and pussy is harder to clean up via eating than just eating the pussy in the first place.  So while I don’t mind a mess I do mind extra work.  Thus for me the food stays out or off of the pussy.

Oh, and while I am giving reasons why I don’t like food around the pussy…pubic hair.  Ever have to clean anything out of pubic hair?  Talk about a pain in the ass.  I don’t care how good that honey, chocolate or caramel sauce is try picking out hair with every lick and what’s worse the damn stuff is just not coming off that easily.  Not worth the effort.

100_5267But chocolate sauce on a nipple that is a nice, tiny, treat.  Even encourages some variation when cleaning up.  Fingers to scoop, tongue to lick, and move the sauce about, and sucking moves off the nipple and onto other areas of the breast.  In fact sauce encourages more play across the whole boob.  Think about that ladies…tired of having your nipples sucked or pinched to death?  Spread some sauce around and tell him to clean it up and clean it up GOOD!

Some of my favorite flavors for those who need some direction:

  • Chocolate and I am NOT a chocolate fan.
  • Caramel
  • Strawberry
  • Honey
  • Cool Whip
  • A combination of any of the flavors with additions like sprinkles. :)

Kinky Fuckery: Fire Engine Red

13 Apr 2013 29 Comments

by ankoku1331 in Kinky Fuckery, Sex Thought Tags: , , ,

The sensation of her skin against the palm of my hand, fingers, finger tips as my hand glides over her ass.  The cool breeze as I lift my hand suddenly up off of her ass.  The quick rush of air as I bring my hand down onto her ass.  The sting on my palm, finger, or just finger tips as I make contact with the skin of her ass.  Watching her flinch, let out a squeak, squeal, or a sound of pleasure is a rush to me.  Watching her ass for signs of my administrations is just icing on the cake.  Red out line of my fingers there or a full hand print bright red fading to a nice shade of pink there on the curve of her ass.  Feeling the heat rising off her skin against mine is a pleasure that is hard to describe to others who have not been there.

I cannot claim to be an expert at spanking. Not even a ranked amateur.  I like spanking Barb, but spanking is not something that I have ever devoted any thought to.  Seriously.  I will spank her here and there, but I have never used spanking as a primary or even secondary activity worth of entertainment for the night.  Spanking for the most part evolves naturally during our play.  I know she likes being spanked and may even want to be spanked more, but as I said above I haven’t given spanking much thought at all.  That is until I noticed that over the past week or so there have been other bloggers also thinking about spanking.

I hope Bedroom Submissive doesn’t mind the links or pingage, but her blog on spanking positions really got me thinking.  I tend to think a lot about bondage positions, but I had NEVER until I read her spanking positions post given any thought to positions for spanking.  Over the knee or over the bed for sure, but over the knee and bondage don’t tend to go well together…well not easy movement for the unbound person.  Over the bed is a standard.  Now I have another position to think about and with that thought came others.

Her other blog where she talks about her personal experience with spanking also gives a lot of great advice for spanking that was also eye opening.  I like having my eyes open, especially when the topic is sex.  Reading that spanking could be more than just a “thing” that we did during sex was enlightening.  Still there were some doubts in my head especially about an intense spanking session.  Interestingly enough I found husDom’s post that talked about that.  Always nice to read that you are not alone in your thoughts especially when the thought is about potentially causing pain to someone you love.

While I continue to ponder spanking, more than I have before, I found some funny charts here and here.  While you are on the Bedroom Submissive’s blog look for some of the spanking humor-this one was a favorite of mine.

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